What do I mean by that? Although most people would not label themselves a “writer,” many still make an effort to write something original when it comes to their big day. The bride and groom might write their own vows, the best man, maid of honor, and parents write speeches for the reception, and the wording of invitations suddenly becomes incredibly significant. Guests even partake by writing notes of advice at the wedding shower or cards of encouragement for the day of.
My husband and I wrote letters to each other before our wedding. During the ceremony we locked the letters in a box with a bottle of wine, and on our one year anniversary we opened the box and drank the wine while we read the letters. In the midst of the insanity of planning a wedding, this exercise forced me to take time to reflect on why this day was so important and how important the days that lay ahead of us were too.
Somehow, though writing might not be a central experience in daily life, it becomes crucially important on a day that many consider one of the most important of their lives. This is, in part, because we believe our wedding, our partner, and our story to be unique. So unique that we must use our own words to express what we feel for that person. My advice is to not forget about writing after your marriage begins. Write each other letters, small notes, and cards. Because as one of the quotes in the store reminds us, “What is written is always there; what is said is in the air.”